I’m often asked why I started this blog and the answer is simple. I had skirted on the edge of some fandoms in the past and saw the wonderful communities that formed from them. When I fell in love with Fifty Shades of Grey and saw that there wasn’t much of an organized fandom out there, I asked Mags if she wanted to start a site with me, god knows it was all we talked about anyway. She said yes, and an hour later Latersbaby.net was born.
At the time I had no idea what I had gotten myself into, both good and bad. The sacrifices (editing podcasts on Friday nights), but the riches too. And by riches I mean the friends I have made and the amazing people I have met. I’ve traveled the world, I have friends on almost every continent, and yet, I still learn more each day about myself and the world. The ladies of this fandom are amazing, the varied interests, skills and passions from all around the world. The day before writing this post I heard the perfect line from Sally Hogshead:
“The world doesn’t change by people who sort of care.”
While some criticize the fans of Fifty Shades of Grey and others roll their eyes, the men and woman of the Fifty Shades of Grey fandom are changing the world. Maybe it’s just a video by @Sunshinedoll27, an edit by @HappyNaila, an illustration by @RufflsNRstr8nts, fanfiction by @Eminethe1st or one of the many people lurking in the background and occasionally pointing me to a good article, a typo, or just saying thank you. Each and every one of us is part of a group of individuals supporting each other and teaching each other new things each day. Because we care, we have an opportunity to bring ourselves and our friends to a new level, to have a discussion about sex, relationships, fantasy and books that wasn’t here 5 years ago.
Sometimes it doesn’t sound like much, just a bunch of girls talking about sex. But at the heart of it is a bunch of men and woman talking about life and supporting each other. Sadly, that’s more rare than we think. But, men and woman from around the world saw something in one woman’s writing and today each of us is a little different because of it. We all do that for each other every day too, you don’t need to be a NY Times Bestseller to make a difference.
Tomorrow I’m going to post some amazing art, with a crazy story, another example of someone who cares and is making a difference. Aviva’s work touched me, not because it’s so spectacular, though it is. It touches me because she made it for Erika, with no agenda, just a gift to Erika to show her appreciation for a wonderful set of books. She’s not even the the person who approached me about posting it. The work isn’t just a compilation of her own art, she brings in elements of the whole fandom, it represents not just her own art and her own interpretation, but also a little piece of each of us.
So, care irrationally.
And don’t mind me, I don’t know how to just say, “thank you.”