I’ve recently been reading the book Date-onomics by John Birger. One of the major premises of the book is the over supply of woman and the impact it has on dating and marriage. If you’re interested in sociology and the the study of gender ratios it’s a super interesting book. So far I learned that I’m living in the wrong area of the country if I want to get married. Ugh.
At about 25% of my way through the book I found something extra interesting…
Not only does the over supply of woman make it harder for woman to find men to marry, it’s also impacting the culture of dating and sex. The over supply of woman makes woman more likely to be valued as sex objects. I don’t think that would be a surprise to many people, I constantly hear complaints about the over sexualization of woman.
More interesting is that there are studies that reveal that the over supply of woman creates a diversification of erotic activity. “Coital frequency and length of intercourse increase, as well as length of foreplay.” While the statement only references the amount of and length of sex, it got me wondering. Does “diversification” also mean that sex is getting kinkier? Are people experimenting more and pushing their limits?
If they are, is that also a contributing factor in the increased readership of books like Fifty Shades of Grey?
And if it is, what came first, the kink or the kinky reading?
And is the impact greater on the single woman or the married woman who has to compete with the over supply of women or keep her husband from cheating?
What do you think about the change in sexual behavior that might be the result of an imbalance between men and woman?