A friend of mine recently reached out to me after finishing the trilogy with a legitimate concern regarding the relationship between the teenaged Christian and Elena. After a lengthy discussion, I asked her to put down in writing her thoughts so that I could share them with you. As someone who has seen and felt the lingering impact of abuse up close, I want to make clear that Elena and the teenaged Christian’s relationship WAS and IS wrong, BOTH MORALLY and LEGALLY. The letter below expresses my beliefs better than I ever could, which is why I am sharing it with you. Having said that, I also want to make clear that this is in no way a negative dig at Erika, any of the books, upcoming movie, actors, or fans (which I am). I realize that Erika’s intention was and is not to portray the relationship in a positive light, as is reflected in Ana’s and Dr. Grace Trevelyan’s reaction upon finding out about said relationship. But, I thought it was important to open the discussion this topic – not to cause arguments! Please read the following with a clear mind and open heart.
I’m writing because I’m a bit concerned that some readers of the Fifty Shades series don’t see Elena/Mrs. Robinson for the pedophile she is. In my career as a Police Officer, I worked as an undercover on several pedophilia cases and Elena is indeed a manipulative pedophile who absolutely abuses Christian Grey. While it may seem like Christian was old enough to make his own choices about his sex life, at 15 years old, Mrs. Robinson sexually abused him.
The age of consent in almost every developed nation is between the ages of 16 and 18, with an emphasis on adults having sex with younger men and woman. The reason is that adults can and will manipulate teens into sex. So while teens with raging hormones may want and enjoy the sex, the thrill for the adult is not just the enjoyment of sex, they often get off on the power and control. Very often, the adult suffers from a sort of “God” complex, that is developed from the adoration of the beloved child.
As an experienced Police Officer, when I worked as an undercover, I had to attempt to control the conversations with suspects. However, I found that pedophiles acquired more control of the conversation then I thought I had given them. Because their sexual thrills don’t necessarily come from obvious sexual acts and conversations, they can manipulate their prey more easily. Conversations that would be seen as innocent, were actually strategies used by the pedophile to find out exactly how much control they can obtain.
In the case of Mrs. Robinson, she knew Christian’s past and his issues. She knew he was a horny teenage boy, with a difficult past and issues with touching. She also knew he was 15 years old. She used his issues with touching to plan her manipulation of him. She started out small, by slapping Christian – not violating his touching areas, and also testing the waters of how he would react. When Christian continued working for her and didn’t tell anyone, she knew she could continue to ramp up the relationship. She further went to isolate him from others, robbing him of the chance to have a regular relationship with a girl his age. This behavior is not only found in pedophiles but abusers of any background.
While the relationship might have benefited Christian, allowing him to focus and become the man we’ve grown to adore, that does not mean it was appropriate. Elena manipulated an underage young man, who she knew privileged information about. Christian could have “consented” to having sex with a hot older woman, but Elena is an evil woman and indeed A PEDOPHILE.
Thanks for reading this post, I hope it makes clear my reasons for sharing.